二十幾歲的人生,是一段認識自己的旅程,也許你正在嘗試或犯錯、對未來感到不安和迷惘,抑或是你正期待地展開一場戀愛。近日,四十幾歲的 Twitter 網友們寫給過去自己二十幾歲的建議推文,在網路上掀起熱議,他們更真實地寫下想對年輕的自己說的話,值得我們學習參考。
#1
不要淪為後補,成為被需要的人
If anybody tells you you need to bide your time or wait your turn, they’re lying. They never intend to give you a chance & 100% will let someone who hasn’t paid their dues jump the line ahead of you. Go somewhere where people aren’t trying to put you in your place.
— Caissie St.Onge (@Caissie) September 16, 2018
網友 Caissise:「如果有人告訴你要靜候佳音或是等待時機,那表示他們正在說謊。他們從不打算給你機會,而且他們通常會讓不怎麼想要這個機會的人奪走你的機會。去一個真正適合你的地方。」
#2
所謂的成功,是由自己定義的
Define success for yourself. Define what you care about. Don’t substitute the judgment of others for your own. You are the expert at you.
— Denise Hamilton (@OfficialDHam) September 16, 2018
網友 OfficialDHam:「用你自己的方式去定義成功。定義你真正關心的人事物。不要以別人的判斷取代你原有的自我判斷。你才是最了解自己的人。」
#3
支出再多,都要記得存錢
Question the story you’ve told yourself about yourself. Try things, even if you’ve told yourself you won’t like it or won’t be good at it. Save $ every paycheck, even if it’s only $10.
— When Doves Cry (@PupsherLive) September 16, 2018
網友 PupsherLive:「不要輕易相信別人眼中的那個自己。嘗試一切,即使有人告訴你,你不會喜歡它或是你不擅長它。發薪後記得存錢,哪怕只有十元。」
#4
去你想去的地方,創造自我價值
Never chase anyone who doesn’t want you. Not a job, not a love interest - you will always be begging for their attention. Go where you’re wanted, make your own opportunities, and never wait for someone to ask you to do what you want to do. Don’t forget your worth!
— Lauri Lynnxe Murphy (@lynnxe) September 16, 2018
網友 lynnxe:「永遠不要追逐那些不想要你的人。不僅是在工作還是愛情,你總是會乞求他們的注意力。去你想去的地方,創造自己的機會,永遠不要等待其他人要求你去做你想做的事。別忘了你的價值!」
#5
不要什麼都想學,專精在你的強項
Learn your strengths and design a life where you use them everyday. Get liberated from the myth of well-roundedness. Find your edge, sharpen it, and then use it to craft a life you love.
— Amber Benson (@AmberBenson) September 16, 2018
網友 AmberBenson:「學習利用你的優勢,並將它們運用在你的生活上。不要強迫自己成為多才多藝的人。找到你的優勢,專精強化它,然後用它來創造你所愛的生活。」
#6
相信自己的直覺,恐懼會騙人
Fear is a liar. Trust your gut. Don’t use someone else’s mirror to see your own reflection. Say yes to the things that scare you and no to anything that keeps you playing small. Ask for what you want and pay attention to what you get. Travel and laugh often.
— Grace Killelea (@gracekillelea) September 16, 2018
網友 gracekillelea:「恐懼會騙人。相信你的直覺。不要從旁人的角度看待自己。接受對你感到害怕的事物,拒絕做讓你感到平凡的小事。問自己想要什麼,並專注於如何得到它。另外,記得多旅遊、多微笑。」
#7
壞男孩看起來迷人,卻不適合你
“Bad boys” are not fun or sexy. They’re actually bad people and will hurt you in some way shape or form.
— ❄️Kimba❄️ (@kimba__what) September 16, 2018
網友 kimba__what:「『壞男孩』既不有趣又不性感。他們實際上是壞人,會以某種形式或方式傷害你。」
#8
不要為了別人,犧牲自己的幸福
You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep anyone else warm. And stick to the original plan. Don’t let anyone talk you out of it.
— Meat Virginia (@themeatvirginia) September 16, 2018
網友 themeatvirginia:「你不需要為了幫助他人保暖,而把自己燒傷。堅持原有的計畫。不要讓別人影響你的決定。」
#9
不要害怕犯錯,做就對了
Whatever feels right for your life, be brave and just do it! And, if you make a mistake focus on the lesson, not the loss.
— S.CLASS (@SClass68) September 16, 2018
網友 SClass68:「只要是你覺得對的事,去做就對了,勇敢一點!如果犯錯,不要太在意失去的部分,而是集中在犯錯背後所要學習的課程。」
#10
不要害羞,主動認識新的朋友
Make friends and cherish them. You will need each other in your 40s.
— Carrie Schroeder (@ctschroeder) September 16, 2018
網友 ctschroeder:「多交朋友並珍惜他們。在你 40 幾歲的時候你會需要他們。」
#11
多擦防曬,愛護肌膚
My aesthetician has told me that my melanin will stop popping if I don’t start wearing some. 😂
— Danica 💫✨ (@mamirocs) September 16, 2018
網友 mamirocs:「我的美容師告訴我,如果你再不擦防曬,你的黑色素會不斷出現。」
#12
忠於自我,主宰自己的人生
Don’t try to be someone you aren’t. Like what you like, act how you act, don’t apologize for who you are.
— some call me susan (@susalooo) September 16, 2018
網友 susalooo:「不要嘗試成為別人。喜歡你喜歡的、做你想要做的,不要因為『做自己』而向別人道歉。」
#13
多陪伴在家人身邊,記住他們的故事
Spend time with the people you love, especially elderly family members. They will be gone before you realize it. Listen to their stories, remember them, and tell your children or others those wonderful stories.
Good luck to you! ❤️
— Lee Ann (@Leeleefix) September 17, 2018
網友 Leeleefix:「花時間和你喜歡的人相處,特別是陪伴在年長的家族成員身邊。他們會在你意識到之前離開。聆聽他們的故事,記住他們,並告訴你的孩子或其他人那些精彩的故事。祝你好運!」
#14
記錄下每項成就,找到存在的價值
Write your name on the bottom of every document you produce at work, when volunteering and keep a copy for yourself. Keep track of every accomplishment, no one else will.
— Dat Historian, BA MA M1 (@AbenaKJohn) September 17, 2018
網友 AbenaKJohn:「在你工作中的每一份文件下寫上你的名字,並為自己保留一份擔任志工的證明。追蹤每一項你做過的成就,這是必要的。」
#15
享受年輕的身體,接受老化的轉變
Enjoy that tight neck skin.
— Sugar Jones (@SugarJones) September 17, 2018
網友 SugarJones:「享受你緊緻的頸部肌膚。」
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