很多人對於心理治療存在偏見，認為有時心理疾病的人才會接受治療，但事實是我們每個人成長中都經歷過一些創傷，長大後以不同的形式影響著我們，所以不少人經歷低潮或感覺不對勁時也會尋求心理治療師的協助 。一位作家最近在 Twitter 上問大家在心理治療中聽最好的建言是什麼，網民紛紛提供他們的答案，其中或許也能帶給你啓發。
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「與人初次見面時，不要急著讓對方喜歡你，讓你自己感受一下你喜不喜歡對方，能否和對方相處。與其專注於對方怎麼看你，專注於你怎樣看對方。這思考方式改變了我的一生。」
When meeting new people, don’t think about it as trying to get them to like you- think about it as trying to see if you like them / if you get along with them. Rather than focusing on what they must be thinking about you, focus on what you think about them. Changed my life.
— Sailor Nichols (@sailboatsail) November 25, 2019
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「 憤怒只是痛苦裝作很有力量的樣子。」
「在每個抱怨的背後都隱藏著一種慾望，直接表達你的慾望比較好。」
「 你的腦袋像是麥田，舊的道路總是較易走，你必需一次又一次地選擇新的道路，讓它比較易行走。」
Also:
Anger is pain pretending to be powerful.
Behind every complaint is a desire. Say what you desire instead.
The brain is like a wheat field. Old pathways are worn and easy to tread. You have to choose a new path again and again before it becomes the easier one to walk.
— Catherine W-L (@CatherineLynneW) November 25, 2019
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「不要嘗試去理解一個失調的人的行為，失調本來便沒有邏輯可言。」
I learned : Do not attempt to understand why a dysfunctional person does what they do. Dysfunction has no logic behind it. Knowing This, has spared me anxiety and unneeded turmoil
— Grecia Small (@greciasmall) November 25, 2019
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「不管我忙不忙，我都不需要和人解釋我選擇做和不做某件事。」
It's ok to not be busy and to not offer to others a reason I do or don't do each thing.
— Cindy Gross [she/her] #BefriendingDragons (@CindyGross) November 25, 2019
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「只因為別人比你過得更慘，和你有沒有資格去感受痛苦、憤怒或傷心沒有關係。」
The fact that other people have had it worse has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not you "deserve" to feel pain/anger/sadness over something you've been through https://t.co/4ZRbph3PXY
— Lilly Dancyger (@lillydancyger) November 25, 2019
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「如果你很害怕失敗於某件事，最好的克服方式便是失敗得一敗塗地，神奇的是你對於失敗的定義會變得不一樣。」
If you have a crippling fear of failure the best thing you can do for yourself is fail HARD at something.
Odds are all that will happen is your definition of failure will change. https://t.co/aFR0Ir4bo1
— Dickensian Danskin (@InnuendoStudios) November 25, 2019
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「如果你不承認某種情緒的存在，你便沒有辦法跨過它，即使是負面的情緒，例如嫉妒。」
If you don’t acknowledge an emotion you can’t get past it. Even negative ones, like envy.
— Crash Test Whistleblower (@MegNumbers) November 25, 2019
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「當自己的好家長，好好照顧自己的需要，必要時管教自己。」
“Be a good parent to yourself.”
— Lyz Mancini (@Lyzasterous) November 25, 2019
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「即使你的另一半很愛你，不代表他們會了解你的想法和需要，不要想著『如果他們愛我。他們應該知道。』一個簡單直接的對話能釐清很多事。」
Just because your significant other loves you, they don’t always know what you’re thinking and what you need. Don’t think “If they loved me they should know.” A simple straightforward conversation can clear up a lot.
— Bob Merger (@MergerBob) November 25, 2019
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「不要將自己和別人比較，甚至不要和理想中的自己比較，或試想如果你當初做了不一樣的決定，現在的生活要多麼不一樣。這是最危險的心理遊戲。」
Never compare yourself to other people but even more importantly never compare yourself to fantasy versions of how your life would’ve turned out had you made a different choice. That’s the most dangerous mind game of all.
— Ron Drescher (@rondrescher) November 25, 2019
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「不要嘗試讓所有人快樂，某些人便是寧願過得很悲慘。」
Best therapy quote I've ever received?
"Stop trying to make people happy who clearly prefer to be miserable."
— Maggie RomComDojo (@RomcomDojo) November 25, 2019
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「愛不止是種感覺，是你對待別人的方式。」
Love is not a feeling, it's how you treat people
— Hilary Gan (@HilaryGan) November 25, 2019
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「受傷的人會傷害其他人。」
「真的，以我為例，我媽媽虐待我不是我的錯，她的行為反映了她的內心。我有責任去療癒自我並成為一個更好的人。」
So true.
In my case… it wasn't my fault that my mother treated me abusively. The way she treated me mirrored how she felt about herself.
I *am* responsible for trying to heal myself and being a better person to the people in my life.
— Patrick M. Krueger (@pmkrueger) November 26, 2019
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「你說得很對但有人真的請你解決他們的問題嗎？我了解這道理以後便變得更細心聆聽，而且提供協助之前嘗試先了解更多。」
Yes but did they ACTUALLY ASK YOU to solve their problems? I started listening more and asking before diving in to fix it.
— available all pandemic long (@Jennife74277358) November 25, 2019
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