曾聽過這樣的一段話：「願你成為這樣的女子：不炫耀，不爭吵，做一個博學的女子；不空洞，不浮躁，做一個豐盈的女子；即便生命枯竭，亦在優雅中變老。」我想這就是女性最美的姿態，對比起天生的溫柔，有所經歷後的溫柔更讓人感覺平靜舒坦。這樣的女性擁有獨立的人格，懂得照顧自己和別人，也會盡情享受生活。她們不常傾訴也不常埋怨，因自己的苦唯有自己能消解。很少表現出攻擊性的她們，可能曾經不是這樣的，她們曾經有過稜角，曾經有過尖銳的想法，那些強烈的偏執傷害過別人也傷害過自己，但累積經歷後，內心的強大讓現在的她們對人事物都有種體恤式的溫柔。你的生命裡也有這樣溫柔得有點不像話的人嗎？
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＃記得自己想要成為哪種人
曾經有一位溫柔的年輕太太告訴過我：「記得善良，帶著尊重，大概就這樣吧。」這是一個很模糊的概念，對於想要成為哪種人，一時之間是很難答得上來的吧，或者可以想想那些你欣賞或尊敬的人，不一定要是女性，更重要的是，怎樣的性格特質能讓你心生敬意？如果真的想不出甚麼，那就先從比較簡單的「不想成為哪種人」開始吧！
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＃記得最初的自己
記得那個對身邊事物懷有熱情的自己、記得那個毛毛躁躁容易被激怒的自己、記得那個狠狠跌倒的自己、記得那個開懷大笑的自己......無論是多麼微不足道的事，都足以對以後的你造成影響，不知不覺改變著你，因此，唯有記得自己原本的模樣，才能更踏實地走下去。
＃記得愛自己
別再因愛錯了人而折磨自己，別再為不值得的人苦苦守候；偶爾縞賞一下自己，偶爾寵一下自己；適時對自己嚴厲，也適時反省自己。道理我們都懂，然而實踐起上來只怕花上一生也未必足夠。
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＃閱讀，持續的學習
多看書，多閱讀，這樣的建議從小到大聽過不下百次，從前聽得有點不厭其煩，現在卻深深懂得了當中的意義。尤其是在心情煩躁鬱悶的時候，只要翻翻書頁，很快就能夠舒緩平伏。而累積的內涵，終會反映到你的氣質和處事態度上。
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＃多走向大自然
大自然對居住在石屎森林裡的人有莫大吸引力，空閒時多到郊外走走，舒展一下筋骨，呼吸一下新鮮空氣，思緒會自然地清晰起來，內心也會變得更平靜。
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“To whoever is lucky enough to be her next,
She’s jealous. Furiously, viciously, desperately jealous. It’ll annoy you, fuck, it’ll annoy you. But don’t get angry, learn to love it. It means she loves you, she cares. She cares so much. She’ll think every girl can see what she sees in you. She’s scared of the dark sometimes, she has nightmares, bad ones. Hold her. Hold her so tight, stroke her hair, kiss her forehead, and don’t sleep without lingering your arm around her limbs, please don’t let her go. She has a sense of humour you’ll never find in anybody else. She’s so funny, a dark and honest humour that will make you laugh until your stomach hurts. She’ll love to laugh, make her laugh. She throws her head back and her hair brushes off her shoulders and her eyes light up so bright it’s indescribable, you’ll know what I’m talking about. She’s insecure, heartbreakingly so. She always has been and she probably always will be. She’ll put the duvet over her body and she’ll turn the other way if you look at her for too long, but she is beautiful. In every light, in every season, at every time of day and in every dimension of the universe, she’s beautiful. Remind her, every day. She’ll blush and shrug it off but she’ll smile when she thinks about it lying in bed that night, and that’s worth the stars in the skies. Lastly, she doesn’t give second chances. She didn’t give me one. I didn’t deserve one but I’ll never stop wishing I got one. At every opportunity, kiss her in the street, buy her flowers (she loves orchids), dance with her at parties and don’t break her heart. Please don’t break her heart. Because that’ll end up breaking yours twice as bad. You’ll fall asleep to the sound of her closing the door behind her and you’ll never fucking forget it. Love her, because she’ll love you. She doesn’t do anything in halves, she’ll love you whole heartedly and she’ll do it so very gracefully. Love every single one of her flaws, if you ever manage to find any, love her how she deserves and don’t make my mistake. Yours truly, I lost her” - blue-delusion
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＃不要害怕嘗試新事物
長時間的安於現狀往往並非好事，因此多嘗試去接觸嶄新事物，大至換工作或搬去不熟悉的地區，小至挑戰一項新運動或試一家新餐廳，你都很有可能會從這些從未接觸的事中找到靈感或產生新的想法。
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